She describes herself as ordinary, but her marriage is anything but. Let one woman explain why a polyamorous relationship works for open marriage dating, the rules she and her husband play by, and how having multiple sex partners has enhanced their bond.
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624 0 0 0 1. 47 0 0 0 13 6. 5 0 1 0 6. People sometimes assume that couples in an open, or polyamorous, marriage, met at an eccentric arts festival or through a swingers’ social network. But Nicholas and I were just two ordinary government employees in Washington, D. As luck would have it, we were both cast—but sparks didn’t fly immediately.
He was a divorced dad of two in his 30s, and I was in my 20s, so I kind of wrote him off. But everything changed the night when I saw him pick up a guitar. I’m a sucker for a talented musician. Suddenly I found myself incredibly drawn to him, and our friendship quickly escalated to romance. We got married in 2009.
Before I met Nicholas, I’d been in several monogamous relationships but had never been able to remain faithful in any of them. With him, it was easy—not just because I was so sexually attracted to him, but because I loved him so much. Now and then, we’d have the typical “oh, a threesome would be fun someday” conversation, but we never really dug any deeper. Everything changed in 2011, when someone in our family experienced a life-threatening accident. That kind of changed our perspective about life and the need to live every single day to its fullest. Meanwhile, I’d started craving a little sexual excitement into our lives, and the idea of an open relationship intrigued me.