Carl and Kenya Stevens from Asheville, North Carolina, have been married for 22 years and ‘open’ for 12 – and insist their children are multiple dating partners with them bringing their lovers into the family home. A polyamorous married couple who both have ‘multiple’ lovers have lifted the lid on the tangled world of open relationships. Carl and Kenya Stevens have been happily married for 22 years, with over half of their relationship ‘opened’ to different partners who they invite into their home – and they say they’re pioneering ‘the future of love’. The couple from Asheville, North Carolina, actively look for multiple partners on Tinder and dating sites, and insist their children are comfortable with their ‘boyfriends’ and ‘girlfriends’ living in the family home.
Carl, 46, and Kenya, 42, invited cameras to their ‘modern love’ therapy sessions to reveal what it’s like living as a polyamorous couple – in and out of the bedroom. Kenya enjoys a bubble bath with her boyfriend. Kenya told Barcroft TV: ‘Carl and I have been open for 12 years. We enjoy it so much that we support other people coming into this lifestyle. We deal with every kind of problem, from people cheating on their spouse, people who want to open their relationship and people who want to learn how to relate to one person.
Carl added: ‘I think poly relationships are becoming a lot more common. A study showed that it was the fastest growing relationship type in the US. I believe people need help in becoming that, a lot of people are making a big mess out of it. They are not seeing it as a process, I think by 2050 it will be normal like monogamous.
Id”:”639483318153068987″,”descr”:”Carl and Kenya Stevens have been married for 22 years and have been polyamorous for over a decade. They also teach other polyamorous couples the ins and outs of a smart relationship by coaching. A 2016 study carried out in the US, on two nationally representative samples of single individuals, found that one in five people had practiced polyamory. And with relationship dynamics evolving, Carl and Kenya use their own experiences to help others wanting to dip their toes in the polyamory pool, which they freely admit is not easy. Carl said: ‘Kenya and I met on a blind date.
She matched a vision I had of the woman I was going to marry. I was very physically attracted to her. I wanted to have sex with her right away. Kenya added: ‘It was love at first sight. We got engaged eight weeks later.
Then we moved in together, within three months we were living together. By the next summer we were married. So less than a year after we met we did have our wedding. But 11 years later, Carl admitted to falling in love with another woman. Kenya said: ‘Carl came home and told me he was falling in love with another woman at his job and I was distraught. He and I had spoken about polygamy – that is one man, many women.
I have never agreed, I felt like if the man has many partners then the woman should be allowed to have other partners as well. I told him if we’re going to do this, then I’m going to do this too. Carl added: ‘I’d heard of men dating other women, but women dating other men when they’re already married was completely foreign to me. But the more I thought about it, I said maybe it does make sense for equality. If I want something, then Kenya should be able to have that same thing.
Instead of breaking up, Carl and Kenya decided to both became free to have multiple lovers. Discussing polyamory was extremely difficult at first. There were a lot of arguments, a lot of emotions. It was really challenging,’ Kenya admitted.
Two years of discussion and then I went first . He told me to go first and have another boyfriend outside of our marriage. By then our children were a little older. When I first went on a date, it felt like I was betraying my husband. In western culture here in America women are not supposed to have a sex drive or desire men when we are married. It was hard to break through all of those belief systems.