How to write a good dating site profile
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Please forward this error screen how to write a good dating site profile 50. Forget date night: couples who exercise together stay together. Columnist Louisa Whitehead-Payne spent a couple of years dating online before she met her current partner. There is no alternative to going online to meet someone in your 50s.

Well, a solitary old age, I suppose, but if you really want to get together with someone, there is almost no chance you will meet them in real life. Friends don’t introduce you, and the two or three single guys you will happen across in everyday situations are very unlikely to float your boat. In three years, not one friend introduced me to anyone. Men seem to have a little more luck in this department, as women want to find men for their friends to get together with more than the other way round. So, since real life is not going to deliver, embrace the web, brace yourself and get on with it.

Men go on looks and only read your profiles if they like what they see. So seeing and meeting people in their 50s is something of a shock. If you are female, you most likely won’t be getting attention from men that are much younger than you, unless you go on cougar websites. The truth hurts, but the sooner you suck it up, the more successful you will be. It’s first and foremost a numbers game. For every hundred people that don’t suit you, there will only be one or two that will.

And scrolling through all these unsuitables can get depressing. You have to be prepared to spend time and effort on it. Two to three hours a week is what it takes to get any results. There are a lot of them. Do some research before you sign up to one and it will pay back the investment. When you create your profile, present yourself at your bestest best.

The single biggest success factor is your profile picture headshot. Many people scrolling through the site do not look further than this, so it really matters. Feminine and pretty if you are a woman. Smart and handsome if you are a man. Get a good pic taken, if you don’t have one. I chose my nickname, Lizza, but when I met my batch of dates, they told me they had dismissed me initially as they expected me to be downmarket. Think how many I missed just because of this.

A friend who called himself Voyager, because he liked travelling, had to change it when he got too many Star Trek fans for comfort. So think of all possible things suggested by your chosen name before deciding. As a woman, you have to lie about your age because most men are looking for younger women. So to get a man of the age you want interested, I think it’s worth lying. I’d recommend telling them the truth if the relationship develops, in case you end up with a second 50th birthday, like one woman I know.

It all came out on the night and her chap, who had thrown the party for her, dumped her. And I can’t say I blame him. And men, the ladies might be a little older than they claim, so be prepared! Fill out your profile in full. A profile full of slang, typos and bad grammar is offputting. Sloppy lazy people are not attractive. I can’t see that there are many people out there for whom it would add allure, so it’s best to take the trouble over it.