Dating someone with aspergers

Through my own research, and now consultation with a Master’s level psychologist, I dating someone with aspergers convinced, after almost 5 years of excruciating loneliness, isolation, depression, and heartache, that my husband has Asperger’s. While this is devastating to me, my husband seems totally unaffected by it, and now I guess I understand why he has always said that it is my problem to deal withI’m the one that wants it, not him.

With no history of depression or anything like it, the isolation and constantly being blamed for everything wrong with the marriage, and having every little thing about me picked apart daily, I spiraled into a major depression that I am just finding my way out of. I really do see my husband in a different light, and it is helping me to cope for the time being. I love him with all my heart, and I want nothing more than to keep my family intact, and for our daughter to experience as healthy a childhood as we can possibly provide. My main problem lies in my husband’s refusal to acknowledge that anything is going on. I kiss him softly, etc.