Dating rejection

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Unauthorized commercial use of the “Rejection Line” or the rejection line concept is strictly prohibited. Non-commercial rejection lines are permitted, but please, make sure they are funny and not just mean. What do rejection and taxes have in common? They are both inevitable parts of life that everyone has to deal with. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, smart, funny, charming, or awesome you are, there will be times when you meet people who just don’t see it. Don’t take it all so personally.

You’re wonderful, and if someone else doesn’t see it, let that be their problem, not yours. And those kinds of wounds can take a lifetime to heal and will inevitably carry over into your next relationship. If you end up in a place where you fear rejection, you’ll start to anticipate it and then you’ll be more likely to be rejected, thus confirming your initial prediction and affirming your belief that anyone you like won’t like you, which may pave the way for more rejection and on and on the vicious cycle goes. It took me a really long time to learn to deal with rejection, and it’s something that I still need to work on to this day even though I’m a relationship writer and am supposed to have some degree of expertise in this area.

The upside is that my experience and past pains have helped me develop certain skills and insights to deal with rejection while keeping my sense of self intact. The fact is, you can’t make everyone like you and you can’t make every guy attracted to you. There will be people who don’t get you or who don’t like your look but none of that matters. Most women have this inexplicable need to make every guy want them and then they get upset when they find one who doesn’t and start to wonder what’s wrong with them. At the end of the day, all we want is to find that one person who sees and appreciates us. If you have that, you don’t need to be the object of desire for every other guy. And if a guy does reject you, then it means he’s not the one for you and can’t appreciate how great you are and you should be thankful that he pulled the plug before you wasted anymore time.

When someone rejects us, most of us will immediately think there must be something intrinsically wrong with us, I mean, why else would he dismiss us? Yet oftentimes it has nothing to do with us. Maybe their life is overly complicated at the moment, maybe they’re overburdened, maybe they are in a cynical place in their lives and are unable to see the good in others. You will find someone better. The hopelessness that we experience after  being rejected is our irrational fear that we’ll never find anyone as good as the one who decided we weren’t good enough.

Remember, the person who rejected you didn’t see the full spectrum of who you are and that’s not the kind of person you want to be with. Hope is a wonderful thing in most cases, but if he dumped you or rejected you, take it at face value and move on. Don’t hold onto hope that he’ll see the light and will change his mind. I’m not saying he won’t, but whether he does or doesn’t is irrelevant.

No one can predict the future, you can’t know how the story will unfold. All you have is the present and if he doesn’t want to be with you in the here and now, take it for what it is and find someone who does. Don’t punish yourself for someone else’s stupidity. Don’t try to make yourself feel better by drinking excessively or hooking up with random dudes at bars for an ego boost or binging on ice cream or starving yourself any other destructive behaviors.