Dating multiple people is a great idea, especially with online dating. Whether you’re dating multiple women guy or a girl, this approach will improve your odds. Finding a person that you mesh well with can take time.
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. I did my best to only talk to one girl at a time. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental. With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less. All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date. First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.
It always felt like starting all over and was always painful. I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week. As I went on more and more dates in a short time period, I realized that what I really wanted in a woman and what I had been willing to accept were very different. When I was only meeting one girl a month, there were so many qualities that I didn’t like that I would ignore simply because I didn’t want to have to start all over with someone else. All this changed when my dating schedule became very active. Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy. Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.
This freedom allowed me to finally be honest with myself about what I was looking for. I stopped defending the poor qualities my dates had and started moving on. Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time. It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself. I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.