Here, a 25-year-old woman explains what dating challenges’s really like dating an older man nearly 15 years her senior—and lays out the good and bad parts of dating older men. And why so many people do it. Feel Like You’re Settling in Your Relationship?
Could a Break from Your S. Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier. I know this firsthand, as I’m 25 years old, and I’ve been dating an older guy nearly 15 years my senior for almost four years. While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father. I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler. I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. You know what I’m taking about. How long should I wait to text him back? That said, there are not-so-little things that can cause friction too.
Keeping in mind what I’ve learned from my own relationship and anecdotes I’ve picked up from women in similar situations, I’ve outlined the perks and challenges of dating an older man. Jason Statham and Rosie Huntington-Whiteley: 20 years apart. I date someone much older, right? It’s not actually anybody’s business, but I can tell you that I’ve never dated anyone because of money.
In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her. As a woman becomes more confident in her own career and finances, she seeks a partner who matches that, which often is not a 25-year-old guy. To be clear, my boyfriend isn’t rich, but he’s picked up one important habit over the years: investing. He texted me an hour after I texted him. What should I text him back? I can still remember the days when I’d utter those words and essentially have an anxiety attack every time my phone buzzed and it was a guy my own age I’d been casually seeing. And continued to call when he said he would and replied to messages fairly quickly.
In general, dating games are rather boring to a guy who’s probably had his fair share. This alone is a reason why I refuse to go back into the dating pool with guys my own age. 6″,”credit”:”Kevin Mazur”,”camera”:”NIKON D4″,”caption”:”attends Apollo in the Hamptons 2015 at The Creeks on August 15, 2015 in East Hampton, New York. Olivier Sarkozy and Mary-Kate Olsen: 17 years apart. His confidence gets major points.
When I’m out, the guys I seem to attract are generally in their mid- to late-30s. Rarely do younger guys approach me. To find out why, I asked a straight twentysomething male friend, who pointed out that younger guys are simply intimidated. After all, going up to a total stranger in a bar and making an impression isn’t easy, and it takes a certain amount of confidence, which often comes with age. Persistence also takes confidence—my boyfriend extended three invitations before I finally agreed to get coffee with him. If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.