Dating a widower over 60

Single over-60 men throw the question back: Where are all the women? Where are the single men 60 and older? Married, gay or dead, or they’re out having drinks with women who dating a widower over 60 35.

That’s what the women 60 and over are telling me. They tell a different story. After I wrote about one woman’s failed efforts to get men to attend a speed-dating event for singles over 60, I heard from nearly 300 lovelorn readers. Barbara wrote: “We, the single women in our 60’s are doomed! As one of my male neighbors told me, when the funeral home was taking his wife out the front door, women with casseroles were coming in the back door. Maybe I’ll just get a dog. You can change the location at any time.

Patricia wrote: “Trying to find a man over 60 is like trying to find a good bullpen. They’re out there, but not in Cleveland. But dozens of single men said they, too, are lonely. They wonder where all the women are. Jerry lost his wife of 34 years. It’s a strange and different world out there,” he wrote.

I have the same sort of bad luck meeting eligible women that these women claim to have in meeting men. Men complained about women who give up on sex after 60. They offered the old joke, “What do you call women who don’t want sex? Mike, who is 71, wrote: “Healthy men are ‘hard-wired’ for sex. This is entirely different from women, who can virtually be sexual camels.

To further complicate matters, have you looked at some of these women? I don’t want to be unkind, but, a great majority of them are significantly obese, certainly not a ‘turn-on’ for any healthy male. Of course, I won’t deny that many men fall into the same category. Sam, who is 65, still wants to enjoy sex. That’s part of the reason why men over 60 date much younger women. When you’re over 60 your days are running out quickly, so why not enjoy sex as long as you can?