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But I’m not young either, which as a single woman, sometimes makes me feel like I live in a divorced no man’s land—literally. By no man, though, I don’t mean there aren’t any men. God knows there are plenty. I wouldn’t trade my family for anything. Even as a little girl, I always dreamed of being a mother. And I was blessed to become one for the first time at 27 years old.
But at 41, I don’t want to think of my prospects for finding a soul mate as all but impossible because of the full and busy household my ex decided to walk away from. Yet, the reality is, I must. I have to, at least for the time being, consider the possibility I may be single for the next nine or so years until my youngest child goes off to college. When he does, my world will open up to more potential partners—men who, admittedly, only want the woman and not her so-called baggage.
Because as I see it, I have recently embarked on a grand adventure. For the first time in years, I am happy. I am no longer trapped in an unhappy marriage with an unappreciative and inattentive husband, and no longer living in anyone else’s shadow. A person can only spend so long applauding someone else’s success before becoming lost in it altogether.
My life is now laid out before me, undetermined, a blank canvas on which I can create the image of myself I have always pictured. My children are a part of that picture. I’m not the person I am today without them. So, when a man doesn’t call me after he learns I am a single mom who has full physical custody of my children, or when a man tells me he doesn’t want to meet my children now or doesn’t think he should ever meet them, I take pause.